Matter of Perpective

When we go to different countries to teach people to study the bible, we warn them of seeing the bible through their own cultural perspective or making it say what they want it to say. Instead we encourage them to try and understand it from the original reader and writer’s perspective. To demonstrate this point we often tell this funny story:
The Pope and the Jew
A long time ago the Pope wanted all the Jewish people to leave Rome, so he gave them three days to evacuate the city. You can imagine they were shocked and outraged, so the Pope said that he would allow them to stay if they could produce a person who could beat the Pope in a silent debate. Well, nobody wanted to face the Pope and risk losing, but one old man who lived on the streets said he would do it. The Jewish people were totally dejected because they knew this old man could never win, but no one else would volunteer so they let him go to the debate.
 
Looking at each other the Pope began.
He held up three fingers. The old man held up one.   
 
Then the Pope swung his hand around the top of his head
The old man pointed to the ground.
 
Exasperated the Pope took out the bread and the wine
the old man took out an apple.
 
In utter disbelief the Pope through up his hands and said, this man is too good, the people can stay!
 
When the bishops surrounded the Pope after the old man had left, they asked him what had happened. The Pope replied, "I held up three fingers to represent God the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, he held up one finger to remind me that God is still one and common between us. Then I swung my hand around my head to demonstrate that God is everywhere, and he pointed to the ground to say that God is here with us too. Finally I reminded Him of the death of Jesus with the bread and the wine, and he held up an apple showing me original sin. What else could I do, he had an answer for everything!"
 
Meanwhile, the Jewish people were celebrating but they couldn’t believe what had happened. They surrounded the old man and asked him what had happened. He said, "To begin the Pope held up three fingers to say we had to leave in 3 days,  but I held up 1 finger to say not one of us was leaving. Then he swung his hand around his head to say we could go anywhere but Rome, I pointed to the ground to say we were staying right here…"
 
The people prodded him and begged, "Yes, yes, then what happened?"
 
The old man replied, "I really don’t know, he pulled out his lunch and I pulled out mine."
Hope you had a good laugh at the story :) It reminds me to try to see life from other people’s perspective. 
 

Time Management

Many of you who know me well know that I love things like organization, action planning and teamwork.
I’ve even taught seminars on time management. And I will say that in my life I have usually been pretty good at managing my time and priorities.
 
But now I have met my match in a 3 week old.
 
From morning until night I live my life in 2 1/2 hour increments: feed for half an hour, keep her awake for another half and hour, put her to sleep for half an hour, then I have one hour to get stuff done…and then the cycle starts again.
 
I have two teachings to prepare which are due in two weeks, a newsletter to write for Titus, door signs to make, thank you cards to write, teaching illustrations to prepare, not to mention emails, laundry, dishes, meals… I can hear the mothers reading this saying, ‘welcome to my life!’
 
We are preparing for this next Titus Project in two weeks. With just under 20 students coming, we have a lot of work to do. Please pray that the time we do have we can use wisely (which includes many moments of holding and cuddling Cassie). We are excited for the school to start! Ben is going to be teaching on ‘How to Preach’ and how to teach the ‘Bible Overview’, I will be teaching on ‘How to Present’ and ‘Teamwork and Team Dynamics’ Then we will send teams to Mongolia, Kyrgyzstan, and another country near here that we can’t mention. We are very excited!
 
 

My Dad: The Human Garburator

So you may have noticed the title – its basically just a joke we’re having around here. Dad comes from good stock that doesn’t waste too much, so when a couple of days ago he burned my grilled cheese sandwhich he said "Well, we are not going to throw it out, I’ll just eat it". Today we went for a stall-tasting tour, baked yams, chicken sandwhich’s, kimchi dumplings, corn soup, pork dumplings, some kind of seaweed wrap deal, you name it… Well, lets just say, whatever we couldn’t finish, Dad took care of!
 
Actually, its been great having him here. He’s been great with Cassie, enjoying all the spare time with her he can – which is really nice for Mom and Dad (apparently that’s us now) who are busy but joyful. Now all that’s left is for him to try the ‘stinky tofu’.

Finally Some Pics

Finally some more pics. Enjoy! We’ll try to get some kind of video up soon…
 
Cassie has been SO well taken care of by countless friends and family, and though our thank you cards are not yet all in the mail, our hearts are filled with praise to God and gratefulness to you who have shown your incredible love for this little bundle. At the moment she is sleeping peacefully in grandpa’s arms!
 
If our computer continues to work (it’s still hit and miss) we’ll continue to put up pics but otherwise we are sorry for the wait.

Announcement

For those who have just received our email, you can find the details on Cassie and the birth two blogs below this one. In about four days you can check back to this website for more pictures since we expect our laptop to be back by then.
 
Tonight has been so wonderful. We took Cassie on a nice stroller ride and we went to dinner at a patio restaurant on the water right by our house. This was our goodbye dinner with my mom. A beautiful breeze kept us cool as we ate under a thatched roof. We said all of our thanks for her hard work this month. She helped us so much (I don’t know how many loads of laundry she did), kept us laughing, timed my contractions, rocked Cassie when we couldn’t stop her from crying, played cards with us, made me decaf coffee, and the list goes on. I can’t hold back the tears as I write this because I will miss her so much.  
 
What does make me smile though is knowing that she will be home with dad tomorrow, even though they have talked often, they are so excited to see each other again, (and she can show him LOTS of pictures of his first granddaughter).
 
Another thing that makes me smile is looking forward to Ben’s dad coming on Monday. He is so good with his grandchildren and Cassie is just going to love him. Plus he will bring back lots of stories for Ben’s mom.
 
So tonight as I lay my head on my pillow, I will shed some tears and smile too. I am so grateful for this time. I wouldn’t have traded it for anything.
 
Thanks mom! (thanks Dad for giving her up for a month)
Ben, Cassie and I love you both.
 

Tom – Is that You?

We, all four of us, made it out today for a stroll down the riverfront. It was cool weather, a nice change from the humidity. So we decided to make an afternoon of it and included a stop at Starbucks to read our Bible. Well while Angela was getting the drinks, the three of us headed upstairs to find a nice place to sit. Sure enough, a table with a nice view opened up. While we waited for Ang we sat and talked. All of a sudden two young girls peeked their heads around the corner and politely asked, "Can we take a picture of you?". Thinking it included the four of us, especially Cassie because the Taiwanese sure are enamored with little babies, we said sure. Little did we expect the girl to wakl to the far side beside Ben (clearly out of the way of the other two) and have her friend take the picture. We were quite shocked. They weren’t looking at Cassie, they wanted a picture with Tom Cruise! I politely declined the request for autographs.
 
In other news, Cassie is now a full week old, Angela and I are learning how to parent and Mom K loves pushing the stroller!

Our little bundle of Love!

We are TOO excited to introduce our brand new little bundle of joy! She arrived in our arms at 1.56 in the afternoon, Fri May 23, 2008 (Taiwan local time). A strong 3,850 grams (8lbs 8oz) and 54cm (21.25") long she quickly captured the hearts of mom and dad. Mom and the little one spent three nights in the hospital recovering but now are growing strong and healthy. Dad simply marvelled at his astounding wife!
 
Our little bundle of love is named after three incredible people. Her two grandmothers, Sandra and Colleen because of their great love, their gentle spirits and joyful attitudes. Cassandra Colleen is beautifully named. After having spent two months in Indonesia in the womb, we felt Cassie deserved a little bit of treasure from there, and since the word for love in Indonesian is "Kasih" (pronounced the same), it could not have been a better fit! You might wonder why "Angela", but after having watched his wife give her life to birth little Cassie, daddy could not help but include it, and of course, she is already becoming daddy’s little Angel.
 
Finally, a few thanks are in order. N-a-n-n-a (Grandma Colleen Krystik), has been running around, adventurising like nobodys business, helping in a thousand ways – Thank you Nanna! Amy Stevens, our Titus Leader and good friend, was on call for a whole week as we waited for Cassie. She brought us to the hospital and took care of a number of details. Another friend, Francis translated a lot for us. Those two also spent about five hours massaging mommy while she was in labour. Thank you!
 
PS The laptop is under repair so thanks for your patience with the pictures.

Never stop growing

…I don’t mean physically (although as I wait for this baby I feel like my tummy is growing and stretching by the hour).
 
I’m reading a book called ‘Teaching to Change Lives’ by Howard Hendricks. He tells a story of an 86 year old woman. 
"The last time I saw her on planet Earth was at one of those aseptic parties. We were sitting there on eggshells, when she walked in and said, ‘Well Hendricks, I haven’t seen you for a long time. What are the five best books you’ve read in the past year?’
She had a way of changing a group’s dynamics. Her philosophy was, Let’s not bore each other with each other; let’s get into a discussion. She was eighty three on her last trip to Israel. She went there with a group of NFL football players. One of my most vivid memories of her is seeing her out front yelling back to them, ‘Come on, men, get with it!"
She died in her sleep at her daughter’s home in Dallas. Her daughter told me that just before she died, she had written out her goals for the next ten years."
A good friend of mine just told me she is going to be going to University again to get her masters. My mom flew across the ocean to be with us and is experiencing a brand new culture. Another friend told me of life change she will be making that takes a lot of courage… and we will be learning to be parents (hopefully soon!)
 
Learning (for the sake of growth not just job placement or advancement) makes our experience in life deeper. So keep making goals and pushing yourself to learn new things, even though as we grow older risks and learning seem scarier and scarier. Don’t let fear hold you back. So what new thing are you going to learn?

Quick Update

Hey everyone, just to let you know, no baby yet. Our due date was yesterday but the doctor said it could still be a little while, the baby hasn’t even dropped yet. Also, our computer just broke down so we have to send it back to Canada for repairs which is going to make emailing and website updating a little challenging. Don’t worry, we still will, but it may be a little slow for the next little while. Thanks so much for understanding!

Please pray…

Often our lives are so full of ourselves and our plans. For us, the excitement of having a baby seems to consume our thoughts, prayers and worries.
 
However, today I just want to remind myself and anyone else who is reading this blog to pray for the people suffering in Myanmar where the death toll from the cyclone that hit on May 3rd is around 100,000. One journalist (Martin Fletcher) wrote
"Imagine huddling under a tree with dozens of others, your back flayed open by the whipping leaves and branches in the water, and there’s no medication; the wind is severe and it’s raining hard, you’re hungry and there’s no food, and the only water to drink is the floodwater that surrounds you, which is polluted by the corpses of humans and animals bobbing around you. Your children are crying and the old people are sick. And you look into the sky for planes or across the water for rescue boats, and they both stretch to the horizon and are empty. That’s the situation described by aid officials who are frustrated beyond comprehension at the obstructive response of the Myanmar government.
 
Please also pray for the families in China, especially those who have lost their children in the huge earthquake that just passed. Many of those who died were children because it happened during school hours.
 
There is much suffering in the world and even though it is easy to be wrapped up in my own life,  Jesus calls me to love others like I love myself. So now I will go and pray… 

Refreshing

Wow! This morning we spent two hours surrounded by many friends and family. Well, of course, we’re in Taiwan and most of them are in Canada but by using Skype Video we were able to chat with and see most of our female relatives and friends living in Winnipeg. Why female? Well, the reason is that our church put on a very special baby shower for us. We received many wonderful gifts which we are thankful for, but far more touching was being able to spend a few minutes chatting with everyone. I think that nearly everyone of us shed a tear or two!

You’ll notice that the title today is ‘Refreshing’ – why? Quite simply because the love that you have poured out for us has refreshed us in a way that nothing else can! Thank you!

Our trip to Mackay Hospital

Everyday we get questions like:

"So does your doctor speak English?"

"What is the hospital like?"

"Are there rats running in the halls?" (okay well, maybe this one doesn’t get asked, but we know that people wonder!)

Today we went to the doctor and took a video of the whole experience. Hopefully this will put everyone’s minds at ease. It may in fact make our pregnant friends a little jealous :) 

And yes, our doctor does speak English.

The Big Picture

You’ll notice that we posted pictures of the base fun day we had yesterday. Every quarter we get everyone together that is associated with YWAM Danshui Taiwan and we do something fun. Yesterday we took a ferry across the river to a park where we played (or in my case watched) football and ultimate frisbee. It had been raining that morning so of course there was lots of slipping and sliding in the mud. Eventually it just became a big mud war, clothes were ruined, but memories were made :)
 
We were thinking that as a faithful friend who reads our blog regularily and wants to know what we are up to, you may not quite understand the whole concept of this particular ywam base. Every base is different, but this one has a unique blend of training, community work and international ministries. We all live in the same area and get together on monday mornings to learn more about God, worship together etc. We also share office space and try to partner together to help each other accomplish goals. Some of the different things that people are involved with here are: DTS (the entry level training school for YWAM), SBS (about 35 students in this bible training course right now), Frontier missions (staff who look after encouraging and supporting missionaries working on the frontlines in Asia), International Publications (coordinating YWAM Asia’s communication), The Rock Coffee bar (where we teach English and provide Taiwanese students with a place to hang out and build relationships), Chinese language study, University ministry, and of course, not to forget TITUS PROJECT :) There are probably others I am forgetting but as you can see, YWAM Danshui Taiwan is a busy base with lots of people who are accomplishing some great things!
 
Hopefully this gives you a better understanding of our world here in Danshui… What’s going on your world? We would love to hear!!

Catchup

Enjoy a few pictures and a quick update of our week.IMGP1079

We spent three days in the office, getting acquainted with all the gadgets and gizmos. We continued to finish closing the last Titus and we started prepping for the upcoming one – those two things will compose most of our life for the next two months – not including having a baby. Angela has started into her 37th week – so the baby can come at any time!

A day in our life

I’m having a mind block about what to write… so I figure I will just tell you about our day.
 
The day started out heading to a base meeting. Every monday all the ywamers here (about 70) get together. Our Titus team shared all about our time in Indonesia, each of us had a part and Keith made a great video to show.
 
After that we went to ‘the Rock.’ This is the coffee bar that we run here in Taiwan, and also where we teach english classes. Every monday after the meeting all the staff go and help clean it all up.
 
In the afternoon we headed down to our local hospital (where we seem to spend a lot of time) to get Ben’s results from last week (stool sample… you don’t really want details…) The bad news is that he had a little amoeba called ‘entamoeba coli’. The good news is that it is actually very common and not dangerous at all. He’ll take a few pills to get rid of it and all will be fine! No quarantine for him!
 
Finally, tonight we wittled away at our to-do list…getting shorter and shorter!!!
 
A life in the day of us…

Focus

It always amazes me how much what we focus on determines how we feel. For instance, since getting home from Indonesia we have been swamped with a to-do list that feels miles long. Trying to prioritize the list and get the most important things done first seems impossible because they are all equally important. Does anyone else ever struggle with this? If I just dwell on how much there is to do I get overwhelmed and then stressed out. However, if I put my focus on simply getting one thing done at a time and keep things in perspective then I have peace and can have joy in the midst of all my tasks.
 
So in this blog I want to focus on a few things that are worth celebrating…
 
We want to celebrate with our friend. We met her at the Rock, she is one of our english students and is currently studying in University. While we were gone in Indonesia she found forgiveness, love, purpose and eternal life. After much seeking for truth she encountered Jesus. Ben met her yesterday and she was glowing with joy as she told him.
 
Another reason for celebration: my mom is coming to Taiwan! She booked her tickets yesterday and she will be arriving on Mother’s Day. My mom is one of my closest friends and I am so excited for her to see what life is like for us here in Taiwan. Hopefully this little baby will stay inside me until the due date of May 17th so that she can be here for that too.
 
There are many things in my life and in the lives of others that I could write about, but instead I leave you with a thought that has challenged me many times from a man named Chuck Swindoll:
"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company … a church … a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past … we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude …  I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you … we are in charge of our Attitude."  – Chuck Swindoll

The Hospital

The hospital serves a very important place in our lives. The Greek guy who started it all had a great idea (you’ve heard the motto) – "to always do the best for our patients". (Hippocratic Oath)

Angela had her first appt in a long time and it went well – the baby is getting big, about 2.5 kg and the head is sitting down. The spine runs up from the head along the left side of her belly and the feet kick her ribs on the right side. To enjoy a similar feeling, simply place something belly (or rib) height around a corner, then have a friend phone you so that you are preoccupied, finally walk around the corner at full speed. How did you enjoy it?

Benjamin also made an appt for the doctor – a gastro something something -ologist. Parasite meet probe – actually, I really hope not. But I’m not quite sure what to expect. I’m really hoping it goes ok, otherwise many of you will get a surprising phone call – "pray for Ben, he’s stuck in quarantine – they think he’s got …". In all seriousness, its not that serious, so don’t go getting worried now.

A wiseguy (um, wise man) once mentioned that whether one was rich or poor, they would give everything to be healthy. Lets give a hand (or say a prayer) to those who day in and day out work overtime to restore our health. Much love, B & A.

A funny story

We are in Jakarta for one night with our team on our way home and we decide to go to a shopping mall nearby since we saw that they had…yes a WENDY’S!!! Remember that we have had beef only one time in the past two months so a Wendy’s burger sounds REALLY good! At the mall there was a little baby shop with clothes and toys. How cute! We stopped to look and as we were something caught Ben’s eye…a little pocket knife. For awhile now Ben has wanted to get a pocket knife so that whenever he needed to cut something etc. he could do it easily. We thought it was a little wierd to have in a baby store, but we still asked to see it none the less. Little did we know it was about to get even more strange. As the store clerk pulled out the knife he showed us how if you press this little button on the side the blade flips out real fast. Yes, this was no pocket knife, it was a switch blade. Totally illegal. So we politely decline at this little toy shop to buy a illegal weapon. But we still persist on. Do they have a knife that does not flip out with the switch of a button? the store keeper assures us he does and then pulls out another knife. This one flips out very easily he says, and then proceeds to show us a butterfly knife. Another illegal weapon at the baby store. At this point we decided to leave :) Indonesia sure is an interesting place!
 
On a separate note we have been having an absolutely great time with our family here in Bali. Uncle Barry and Auntie Geri have been SOOOO wonderfully hospitable! We have loved every minute of spending time with them and our cousins Sheena and Quin. We’ve been swimming, eaten lots of wonderful meals, played cards, gone to their church, talked about: life, parenting, teaching, culture and so many other things. We leave in two days and we are very sad to say good bye!
 
 

Emerging from the jungle…

As I sit down to write this blog entry it is really hard to know where to start- how do I summarize 2 months of amazing and difficult experiences? I’ll break it down into four areas:

Team: We had a team of six people 2 Americans, 2 Koreans and us. We actually had great team unity which is amazing considering we were together every day, all day, for 2 months. Our team was very diverse as far as personalities go, with some being extremely introverted and others extremely extroverted. We had a few small bumps along the way, but they were good for building character. Four of the six of us will continue to work with Titus Project leading teams in the future- so exciting! 

Teaching & Preaching: Our main goal coming here was to train people HOW to study the Bible. In lots of the 9 villages we were able to do this, but in a few we focused on teaching them the big picture of the Bible using a story telling method. Of course, in every village the pastor would have us preach on the Sunday morning and usually another service during the week. They are used to having DTS teams come through here so we always had to explain that we didn’t do dances or skits but we were bible teachers :) Actually we did end up doing lots of skits with our teaching because the people loved it, but no dancing (Thankfully! Have you ever seen Ben dance???). One of the highlights was just this last week. YWAM Borneo was having a staff conference and asked us to train all the staff how to study their bibles. So for 25 hours we trained 30 full time workers that go out into the villages all the time. We went through the books of Titus and Ephesians and by the end of the seminar they REALLY seemed to get it. A great way to end.

Health and Pregnancy: This was probably the biggest challenge for us. We aren’t sure why, but Ben was often sick. Between the heat and the food, he often had no energy and his stomach was constantly bothering him. He threw up a few times too. The amazing thing is that whenever he had to teach or preach he had the energy and strength to get through and never missed one because of sickness. I was blessed with good health, only once or twice feeling a little sick. My tummy got bigger and bigger throughout the two months, and little Beaner kept getting more active. But God has really been so faithful and kept me healthy with no scares or fears. Being pregnant was also a great conversation starter with people everywhere we went.

Marriage: This was one of the unexpected surprises of this time in Indonesia. I thought that because of the lack of privacy and the uncomfortable conditions that it would be a challenge for our relationship, but actually it was the opposite. We’ve grown even closer, love each other even more and had some really fun times together. 

There is so much more to write, but you will all just have to come to Taiwan and have coffee with us :) Hope you enjoy the short video (sorry mac users) and pictures! The video should be a little higher quality than usual but this also means it will take longer to load. We will be back in Taiwan by the 9th. Once we get home we will do our best to get back to writing emails and updating the web page regularly. Until then, please be patient with us :)

Return from the Villages

Hello All!!!
 
We’ve been gone for SO long and we are happy to be back in contact! We missed our friends and family a lot, and we really look forward to getting in touch with people again. We have about 30 minutes at an internet cafe today and then we won’t have internet again until next week, so personal emails won’t be coming for a while.
 
We are doing well! Angela looks great and she’s got a big belly! We are so excited for Beaner! Which brings me to our thanks! Many of you have spent personal time praying for us, for our safety and health and work. We have spent nearly 2 months in one tough environment but we are in good health and happy with the work we accomplished! Thank you for your prayers!
 
We probably won’t be able to get pictures up today but we might be able to next saturday!
 
Much love and thanks!
Ben, Ang & Beaner